PandeMommium

Introduction

My name is Allison and I am a married SAHM of 3 kids. A 3 year old daughter and 2 year old boy/girl twins. I originally ventured into the online world with my blog several years back when we got pregnant for the first time with our daughter who unfortunately did not make it and was still born at 5 months. This was extremely devastating for us as we had been suffering from male factor infertility for the 7 years previous and had finally made the decision to use donor

sperm to create our family. However, our hearts still so wanted a child and we moved on and eventually had the children we so desperately wanted. I start blogging in an attempt to find other moms/families who also had children born from donor conception and what I found was so much more. I discovered I had more to write about than just being a mom of donor conceived kids, I also found that I got great joy from interacting with others about being a Mom, A Wife, A Student (yes I am also back in school), etc. Most importantly I found an online world of friends and family... read more

My Maiden Voyage

As this is my maiden voyage posting on my new column PandeMommium, I thought it only appropriate to share a bit more of myself and how I became fortunate enough to be able to use the aliases GENdMOM and PandeMommium and blog about my crazy and wonderful life with 2 year old twins and a 3 year old. Every week I plan on bringing you my tears and jeers when it comes to raising my kids and about not just being a mom but also a woman who is trying to crawl her way back to sanity! The following is my story in brief ...

I am a mom who wanted kids, ached and pained, kicked and screamed, got poked and prodded and worst of all was told that at the tender age of 35 I was of an advanced age for child bearing. Holy Crow, I was pissed. I didn't want to be 35 when I first got pregnant, I wanted to do it right out of the marriage gate when I was 28, but things did not happen that way and it wasn't until years of trying finally found me sitting in a fertility clinic picking a suitable sperm donor and having my fibroids and eggs measured to see if I was still able in my now elder years to become pregnant and bear children. I was given a bleak outcome, small eggs, big fibroids, 35 years old, IUI with Sperm Donor, there was not a great deal of hope from the doctors side of things, but after so many damn years of wanting kids I was not going to be discouraged. I thanked him, signed the paper work to say I understood that using fertility treatments could increase the chance of multiples which for me sounded like a win, to a fertility doctor it is a loss, the government does not like multiples and doctors that help create them, as they are a strain on the health system with many medical issues early on in their little lives. I left high with hope and went to the pharmacy to fill my prescription for clomid and wait for my sperm to arrive and my monthly cycle to kick in...read more