As you know, Bob Brotchie offers his counselling service through our community here at LeanOnUs and I wanted to share one of Bob’s posts with you as I think this is relevant to many of us. When we go through difficulties, many of us keep it to ourselves; we not only avoid professional counselling but we also avoid confiding in friends.
What’s it like seeing a Counsellor? Do you think you will consider a counsellor only as a last resort? Why would that be? Perhaps a sense of failure? Many people feel that to see a counsellor is to admit a failure in some way. Many wait, trying to work out how to overcome the matters hurting them.
It’s a good thing at times, being inquisitive and testing for effect – but left too long without learning kind new ways and mechanisms to softly grow self awareness and compassion for oneself, and we can reach an end point for our amazing resilience against adversity.
“I was unsure what would happen, I guess I was anxious”
Might you consider being open to exploring your mind and success instead?
You can choose to meet a counsellor to find a faster, comfortable and more sustainable way to live your life, and not because you need telling; you’re looking to aspire to learn from someone who has a passion for this area of living – and quite likely someone who has walked the fires of life too!
They want to share lessons learned with you out of compassion, rather than ego!
Couples and Relationships
If you are a couple experiencing challenges, those needs of a couple can often be found within the individuals! At assessment on the initial enquiry I might suggest, based on the information provided, whether it might be of greater value to be seen individually – or together at the beginning.
Fear of Therapists Judgement
A therapist who accommodates the healthy needs of the client without judging them – and offers impartiality, helps the individual explore their potential, offers a dynamic and accepting way, and is more useful than one who attempts to make the client fit his or her beliefs or education.
I can express a statement, opinion, or view in exactly the same way to two different people yet they are likely to be interpreted differently. My role is to establish this in my communication so that what is said, is what is understood. Until trust has been established, individuals may well wonder if they are going to be admonished in some way. No!
Your counsellor willingly demonstrates how they are in your corner and raises your awareness of the successes in you, especially in how you seek to make the most of your life and are willing to accept help finding more harmony and balance – and less emotional turbulence – and that this journey is anything other than as a result of failure.
You might ideally seek a skilled, impartial professional, who is non-judgemental and listens. They will guide you when you ask – and can help you explore where you have been, and where you want to be now, at peace with yourself – and others.
The most successful individuals seek the views, opinions and experience of others; they were anything but failures before they learned to grow and accept knowledge from outside of themselves. Are you any less deserving?
These are a brief idea of some of my thoughts, but what are your experiences – and thoughts?
Bob Brotchie is a British counsellor providing private services to clients in the privacy, and comfort, of a truly welcoming environment at his company office. He can be found at Anglia Counselling Ltd, located near Newmarket in Suffolk (GB). Bob also provides counselling, online, for international clients all around the world.
Therapeutic models are often centred around mindfulness, with clients finding 'peace' via the integration of Psychotherapy and Cognitive Behaviour Therapy (CBT) principles.
As of 2016, Bob has also made available a free guide entitled 10 Steps to Conquering Your Anxiety.